Story and Why
Your Legacy of Love: Realize the
Gift in Goodbye
written by Gemini Adams
published by liveconsciously
A book review by Tom Gilbert - © December,
of us will one day face it; not everyone thinks about it. In fact, most
are in denial. They don’t contemplate it happening to them.
what are we referring to? The “D” word –
death. Sooner or later, it comes to us
all. Our mortality is a fact. Preparing for it is a good idea. Not
it, but preparing for it.
what can we do? To start, we can live everyday to its fullest. Have a
life. Have an appreciation for the gift of living. In addition, do
planning for what you would like your loved ones to receive from you after you die.
is one of the greatest reasons for preserving your life story. It is a
your experiences, what life means to you, and what others mean to you.
the greatest gifts that any of us can receive is a “goodbye
gift”. It is the
gift from a loved one in the form of a written letter, essay or book
passes on a message of love, values and any instructions or directions
want others to have after you’ve passed on from this life.
new book from writer and grief expert, Gemini Adams, Your Legacy of Love: Realize the Gift in Goodbye,
full of wonderful and vital suggestions for just how to go about
“Gift in Goodbye”. The author discovered the hard
way how difficult it is to
not have such a written legacy when her mother died of cancer at a
She longed to have this “goodbye gift” from her
mother. It has taken her years
and a great deal of research to put together this resource that details
important it is for each of us to “realize the gift of
than financial assets, most people long to have emotional
assets: the values, lessons, voice, image, wisdom and
affections that make up a loving legacy. The message in Gemini
Adam’s book is
positive, uplifting and yet completely practical. She discusses how to
beyond a culture of denial about death and to embrace a life that
considering leaving a written legacy of values and caring messages. She
examples from others and stimulates your imagination as well as giving
practical steps to begin your own goodbye gift.
had a chance to speak with the author and I can tell you Gemini Adams
genuine and strongly motivated to share her inspirational message. You
out more at her website, www.RealizetheGift.com.
Her book is divided into three key sections
-“Realize”, “The Gift”, and
Goodbye”. Her personal experience and research will inform
you with a wealth of
creative ideas, resources and specific ways to prepare your stories,
and memories so you can leave a <em>legacy of
the book brought about several “head nods” as well
as personal insights and
inspiration. I’m a big believer in encouraging others to live
in the moment so
I was quite pleased with Chapter 11, “R.I.P. – Rest
in the Present” and the
emphasis on living in the now and telling people now that you love
them. Part of expressing that
love is preserving your story for your family and friends and in that
telling them how much they matter and what life has meant for you.
book also contains an extensive resource section with links to various
and information about books and programs, covering subjects such as
bereavement, life celebration, defining your wishes, music and
life story preservation.
the book and use it to realize the great “Gift in
Goodbye”. It’s available in
bookstores and online, including at the author’s website, www.RealizetheGift.com
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