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Your Life is Your Story, Issue #024 Ė Let Us Play
October 31, 2005

"Your past is your story up to now. The future is the story yet to come. The present is where you live with that experience, your hopes and your dreams."

Your Life is Your Story Newsletter October 30, 2005 Issue-024 Ė Let Us Play

From Tom Gilbert Ė Editor and Writer,

In this Issue:

Opening remarks: Fear and Loathing
Featured Article: Let Us Play
Resources You Can Use: Your Professional Bio, Family Research and the Five Year Journal

Opening Remarks: Fear and Loathing

Why do we like to be frightened for fun? Usually we avoid fearful situations like the plague. But there is that streak in most of us that enjoys horror movies, thrill rides and getting startled for entertainment.

Maybe we like the adrenaline, but I think itís more because "recreational fear" allows us to laugh at situations that normally would not be funny. When we know it is not real then we can scoff in the face of danger. At least thatís my thought on the subject. Itís nearly Halloween and that remains a popular holiday. I donít particularly care for the nature of gore, but I can enjoy a good "scare" in the name of fun.

My wife and I went to a gala event last night. The Boo Ball is an annual formal Halloween event that raises money for some great charitable organizations in New Mexico. The Janet Vargas Memorial Fund, Operation Homefront and Namaste do good work for military families and for children in need or suffering from health concerns like cancer. We dressed up, enjoyed the dining, the auctions and the fabulous entertainment of a band called the Pink Flamingos. That group is a hoot! They put on an entertaining stage show and play everything from the standards to blues to good old rock ní roll. A good time was had by all.

Iíve been quite the busy beaver the last two months. I work my fulltime radio job and Iím also finishing up an "as told to" autobiography for a delightful 85-year young woman with a great life story. Finding the balance between work and obligations and time with family and recreational pursuits is a theme of this monthís newsletter. Do make time to play Ė itís very important.

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Featured Article: Let Us Play

By Tom Gilbert

"Work to live or live to work" Ė no doubt, youíve heard that before. Hereís another well-worn clichť: ďAll work and no play makes Jack a dull boy.Ē

Thereís plenty of truth in both those statements. You really canít enjoy life, at least not fully, if all you do is work. Unfortunately, for too many of us we have to work more than we want. Itís tough making a living and itís hard to make enough money to pay the bills. Iím not telling you anything you donít already know.

There are times when it is crunch time with work. If you have a project with a deadline then youíve got to get it done or suffer the consequences. The key is good planning, discipline and also knowing when to say, ďenough is enoughĒ. The last thing any of us needs to do is drop dead from the stress of working too much.

All that being said, Iíve been faced with an incredible load lately. Through it all Iíve had good days when a lot has been accomplished and Iíve had those days when I just want to throw my hands in the air. Itís been making me think. I donít want to work all the time. But, I also enjoy work when it is something I find worthwhile. That is the key, isnít it? If you canít do work you love then it just becomes drudgery.

Whether or not you have a job you love you can always make time to play. Iíve been reflecting on the games and playtime I enjoy. I have a couple of kids and some of the times we all remember as the best are when we do something fun together. Sometimes we play board games. Other times we go out Ė to the park, a ball game or a concert. It sure beats just sitting in front of the television.

One of the games we really enjoy as a family is a card game we call "Okie Rummy". Many of our friends and our other relatives jump at a chance to play it when we get together. The game is a lot like gin rummy, but it has a few different nuances. Without explaining all the rules, the goal is each round to get the number of "books" (3 or 4 cards of a kind, like all fours, kings, etc) or "straights" (4 or 5 in a row of the same suit). Every round starts out with all the players getting dealt eleven cards and we have six different rounds where we have to get so many books and straights. You have to draw a card each time or pick up the discard of the player before you. If you donít want the card the previous player discarded then it goes around in order to the other players who have the option of "buying" the card. We all get four pennies to start with and each penny can be used for a buy, but your purchase requires you to also take two more cards from the middle pile.

You strive to get what you need and put down your cards and get rid of any leftovers. You can put cards down on the other playersí books and straights when they lay down. The first to get rid of all their cards wins the round. When you win a round you get negative points and each round has more negative points than the one before. The first round winner gets minus 50, the next round minus 100 and so on. If you are caught with cards left when someone else wins a round those cards count against you. So, you donít want a positive point count; you want the best negative number. And twoís and jokers are wild.

As I try to explain it here I realize itís probably hard to follow. Donít sweat it. The point Iím making is that we love to play this game. It even gets pretty competitive and weíve played this game for years. I think part of the fun is that weíve enjoyed this game for so long and itís a great excuse to get together and socialize.

Have some fun in your life. Make the most of work, but more importantly, make the most of living and that means finding a good balance between work and play.

You can read other articles on life-story writing here.

Resources You Can Use

Your Professional Bio

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Details here.

Family Research

There are many places to research your family history. When you want to find out about your ancestors, or even more recent family members, a good service is It is the leading resource for family history online. Their web site offers over 1 billion names in over 3,000 unique databases. New records are being added to the site each business day.

You can do some searching free of charge. But, if you want to get into more extensive records try a paid subscription. Find out more by visiting our profile of at here.

The Five Year Journal

Another great journal I recommend is Doreene Clementís 5 Year Journal Journaling for insight, personal growth and just for fun is something I highly encourage. The 5 Year Journal is formatted so that you can easily record your thoughts, insights and observations over a multi-year time span. Right now there is a special running to buy two copies at regular price and get two more copies free! See more here

Thatís it for this monthís issue. Thanks for reading. Be sure to visit our blog regularly, and hereís to telling your story. Do give it some serious consideration because I just know youíve got a great story to tell! Be sure to see the Get Started section.

Any comments, ideas or feedback is greatly appreciated. Just reply to this Ďzine and tell me what you think!

Until next time, Ė keep your story alive!

Tom Gilbert

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