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Birthdays, Anniversaries and Reunions - Oh My!
July 24, 2017
How do you celebrate special events?
It is a common practice to create a social event around a birthday,
anniversary or reunion. Think about it.
It starts early on with your birthday. Parents, family and friends
gather around a cake lit with birthday candles. They sing to you and
then present gifts and cards. You, the birthday celebrant, are the
center of attention. And that attention usually creates strong
memories, hopefully happy ones.
Anniversaries are often special
times. If you've been married a number of years you know the
accomplishment and challenge of staying together.
A third type of marker of time with a social aspect are reunions.
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On the Occasion of the 200th Birthday of Henry David Thoreau
July 12, 2017
Most people have heard something about Henry David Thoreau. Maybe you have a vague recollection of Walden's Pond or that the man was something of a loner in nature, whiling his days away with deep philosophical thoughts.
That would capture a bit of the story, but there is oh so much more.
Thoreau's life was fascinating. If he were alive today, he'd probably have some things to say
about the state of our politics and society. It would undoubtably pain
him to see how we've become ever more anxious and desperate.
In his relatively short life (he died of tuberculosis at the age of 45)
he accomplished a great deal. He's remembered for his writings and his
simple living. A well educated man who attended Harvard, he spent some
years working as a teacher. But he also had to work hard in his
father's pencil factory and that time gave birth to his realization
that "the mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation."
One of his favorite ways to contemplate life was by walking in nature.
I can relate; I often get insights into things by taking a walk.
His mentor was another great thinker and writer of the day, Ralph Waldo
Emerson. We owe a lot to reflection on our lives and thinking about the
nature of things, including the nature of nature, to Thoreau. Mostly I
admire his spirit of independence while also caring greatly about how
we all need to live together in some kind of harmony. And with a sense
On the occasion of the 200th birthday of Henry David Thoreau perhaps
you can take a few minutes to ponder your life and legacy (read about
the life and legacy of Thoreau at the Thoreau Society site). Here are three of my favorite Thoreau quotes:
Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you have imagined.
Our life is frittered away by detail... simplify, simplify.
Things do not change; we change.
Trusting in Something Bigger
July 6, 2017
I am not one to be preachy or to talk much about my own personal faith here on my blog for Your Life Is Your Story.
It's not that I don't have a faith or spirituality - quite the contrary!
But I strongly believe that it is a personal matter that each person
should explore in their lifetime. I don't shy away from talking about
what I believe in or sharing about my own life experiences that involve
trusting in Something Bigger. I just choose those opportunities carefully.
What that has to do with our life stories should be fairly obvious.
When you are writing about your life it is important to explore those
areas that are full of meaning and help shape your values and outlook
on life. Reading about other people's struggles with the difficulties
of life and how we grow from them can be inspiring and helpful.
At the same time, a narrative full of complaining and whining can be a
turn-off. So consider carefully what you write that will be shared with
One of the things I treasure about journaling
is that I can be truthful to myself and include anything. It's not for
public consumption. If I ever intend to share from my journal writing I
can use excerpts, edit where necessary, and put it out in some format
for others, be that in a letter, book, soocial media or a blog post.
Today I am in the middle of great concern over a family member's health
situation. It is not appropriate to go into the private details, but I
will relate that it has to do with a burst appendix followed by
surgery. That led to a day of what appeared to be improvemet followed
by the next day and complications. It's scary. I am worried. Yet my
life experiences and my personal faith have taught me that life is full
of possibilities. Good and bad happen. What's really important is what
I am doing. How am I responding? How can I be of help?
Trouble comes. Life can be hard. I know because I've had some of those
experiences. I also get lots of emails from other people interested in
preserving their life stories and frequently they mention how they have
had extremely difficult life experiences.
Keep in mind that your life is not what happens to you. Sun and rain, joy and pain fall on us all. Your life is what you do with all that joy, pain and everything in between.
Heaviest Wedding Ever
June 30, 2017
This month a niece of mine married her longtime love in Brooklyn, New
York. Like many weddings, it was a great gathering of family and
friends. Unlike many weddings, this was very different. It was billed
as the Heaviest Wedding Ever, a ceremony performed in the groom's heavy
metal bar, Lucky 13, complete with lots of tattoos, motorcycles and loud music. It was fun!
Read more here in the latest Your Life Is Your Story Newsletter.
The iPhone is Ten Years Old
June 29, 2017
years ago a revolutionary new product was introduced. The iPhone from
Apple has arguably changed our world. Today we take smartphones for
granted. But that wasn't the case in 2007.
I remember that a colleague at the radio stations I worked at was super
excited about it and had one right away. I wasn't as convinced. But now
I am on my third version of the iPhone and I admit it has become a
Some people worry that we are addicted to our devices and spend too much time on them. The techies call it screen time.
I also worry about that. We need to spend more time looking up and out
and less time looking down. It's important, too, when we get together
that we spend time actually talking
with each other.We get too distracted with our devices and it is often
a safety hazard, especially when people unwisely use their phones while
driving. There are times when we need to put the smart phone down!
However, there are many good things that have come from the iPhone
technology. It is interesting to review the history of the product
through the past decade. The Verge has a series of online articles (link to iPhone 10th anniversary: looking back at how Apple changed the mobile landscape)
that explore the impact of the iPhone over the past ten years, with
such considerations as how it has changed the way we communicate with
our parents, the spreading of emojis, the concern over addiction to
technology and how even Steve Jobs didn't fully understand what the
iPhone truly was "back in the day".
So, happy birthday to the iPhone. I wonder what the next then years will bring?
Your Life Journey With a Commemorative Mile Marker
June 25, 2017
I am sure you’ve seen signs that show the
mileage to destinations. Not the kind on the highway, but those funky looking
poles or stands with multiple little arrow-shaped signs stating how far
to a town, city or tourist location.
Those signs bring to mind memories and dreams about
those destinations. They are fun and amusing. How would you like a
customized journey marker to show off your favorite spots in life? You
can find just this thing at Personalized Journey Markers.
These markers come in a variety of styles (hanging, tabletop and post,
to mention a
few). Each one is made to order and is a unique "mile marker" for your
life journey. Jay Keeler has been doing this for years and has invites
you to take a look at what he offers, including a variety of
that can mark your life's journey. This
is a great gift idea during the holidays of for any
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Way You Draw A Circle Can Reveal Cultural Differences
June 20, 2017
Ok, this is admittedly a little different than what I normally write
about. But my eye was captured by an article I received from a recent
Digg Editions email that stated "Drawing a Circle Reveals Who You Are,
And Other Facts".
The gist of the article (see here)
is that different countries and cultures influence how we draw circles.
Most Americans and many other countries draw circles in a
counter-clockwise direction, but a very high percentage of people in
Japan draw their circles in a clockwise direction.
On the page where I read the article I was invited to draw a circle
without thinking much about it and then I went on to read what the
article was about. I am American. I drew my circle clockwise.
Sounds like I was bucking the odds.
Reading further I discovered that a lot of left-handed people draw
their circles in a clockwise direction. That's me, a lefty.
Interestingly, though, was that I used the mouse to draw the circle and
it was in my right
hand when I drew it clockwise. Hmmm.
How we draw shape shapes and how we write script has a lot to do with
where we were born, raised and live and what are our cultural
backgrounds. Some cultures write from the right to the left, while here
in the United States, and many other Western cultures, we write from
left to right. Something to think about in the big picture of people,
culture and our stories.
Video Tribute - 12 Years of Daughter's First Day of School
June 13, 2017
Parents remember the first day of school for their children, especially
those first couple of years. One father, however, took that first day
of school for his daughter to great lengths. He created a video tribute
that documents their conversations about her first day of school on
twelve consecutive years.
The video has gone viral on YouTube
and for good reason. It shows why it is important for us to remember
and honor significant moments in our lives. Doing it for your own story
is great; doing it for someone you love is even better.
Years Ago Sgt. Pepper Was the Album We Played
June 5, 2017
Over the past few days I've been reminiscing about the amazing Beatles'
album, Sgt. Pepper's
Lonely Hearts Club Band.
It was first released on June 1, 1967, so this is the golden
anniversary of the historic recording. (Note: I've commented on some
previous Beatles' 50th anniversaries from 2014 and 2016.)
To give you some context, by 1967 the Beatles had grown weary of
touring with the many challenges they endured: screaming crowds, the
pressures of their fame and the inability of the technology of the time
to project their live sound with the quality they wanted. If you
recall, the Beatles were such a phenomenom by the mid-1960's that their
live shows were held in stadiums. Nobody had done that and so the sound
systems of the day were woefully inadequate.
By 1967 the Beatles had retired from touring and concentrated on making
music that pushed the envelope of recording techniques. It was a
psychedelic time, fueled by mind altering drugs like LSD and the
Out of that time came the pioneering Sgt. Pepper's album.
Some really great music. One of the most astounding things to me is
that two of the songs recorded at that time ended up being released as
a two-sided single. The pressure to have new music from the Beatles was
such that they put out the Penny
Lane / Strawberry Fields Forever single, arguably two of
their best songs from that time period. They ended up not being
included on Pepper.
The New York Times
published an article
about the exhaustive 50th anniversary reissue as well as some
commentary. I think they are correct that it is hard to fully
appreciate the album outside of the times it was originally
released in. In other words, we can't really recapture those days. But
for sure we can mark the importance of 1967 and the effect the music
was having on those of us who were growing up then.
If you want to hear a balanced and insightful review of Sgt. Pepper's Lonely Hearts Club Band
I recommend a special produced by Paul Ingles ten years ago to mark the
40th anniversary of the album. You can hear "The Two Sides of
Sgt. Pepper: An Honest Appraisal" by going to Paul's
The Beatles' music certainly has endured - and I am confident it will
continue to do so. Ultimately the message for me is that we all "get by
with a little help from our friends."
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