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I believe one of the great quests for each of us in life is to discover
the purpose of life and specifically what part we play in it.
This is a very personal thing. Most of us have a
great craving to discover and fulfill our purpose. It seems to be wired
into our DNA.
One of the things that helps unpackage it for us is to hear others
speak about their purpose, their life and what they think it is all
about. Some of the most profound revelations can come from
people that you would think might have a negative outlook. People
who've had very difficult circumstances and obstacles to rise above.
doesn't let it such obstacles defeat him. Take a look.
It has been a long, hard day and I'm tired. I find myself not really
wanting to post a blog entry. And then I realize, this is
life. Life is made up of the events and interactions with others, the
good and the bad, the long and the short of it. As has been
said by someone, life is just so darn daily!
Like many of you I am interested in my story and the stories of my
family. Part of preserving our personal history is to
reminisce and part of that reminiscing is to recognize that our stories
are unfolding all the time. Not every day can be an entry in
your story - we'd have ridiculously long and boring stories if we did
that. But, some of your life story must include those days
when you look at significant events, of turning points. If
you haven't started to compile a memory list of these critical times I
encourage you to start. A life lived well is worth
remembering and sharing. Don't deprive others of the life
lessons and experiences that should be shared. The journey of your life
is more important than the "destination". Don't deprive yourself of
that story either.
It has now been a year and a half since I started running again. I'm 51
and the last time that I truly ran distances was in High School on the
cross country team. To be honest, I didn't think I could do distance
running anymore. But when I accepted the challenge to train and run for
the Team in Training
cause to fight blood cancers (TNT is part of the Leukemia &
Lymphoma Society) I found the running events, the training and the
rewarding. Yes, it can be difficult, but there are also the many
benefits on a physical, emotional and spiritual level.
In the past year and a half I've run in two half-marathons and a full
marathon and I'm currently training for the September 2 New Mexico Marathon
right here in my home city of Albuquerque.
One of the most important things for proper distance running is good
shoes. I'm not married to any particular brand. I've owned Nike, Brooks
and my latest pair of shoes are by Saucony. The main thing is to invest
in good shoes. However, I was on the Saucony website and
discovered something they've been doing that has implications for those
of us chronicling our life stories. They have interviewed various
everyday runners in marathons. They call it the Saucony 26 with the
tagline, every runner
has a story. I find that interesting as I use the tagline
in my life story business of Everybody
has a story to tell. Find out more about the Saucony 26 here.
Doreene Clement was a successful woman. She
achieved her dreams and goals. Not because she just "wished"
to. It's because she learned the power of journaling.
She harnessed this power in a unique way and created journaling tools
that you can use to change your life!
the past several years Doreene successfully battled cancer and was even
declared cancer-free. However, she recently was diagnosed
form of cancer - a particularly agressive bone and breast cancer and
she passed away on June 14, 2007. But Doreene's legacy lives
her encouragement has touched many lives. Her 5 Year Journal can help
change your life. More here.
Dad, Daddy, Pop, Pops, Papa or Father - however you refer to him, today
is the special day for fathers. I hope you've celebrated in
some way and showed your appreciation. My dad is in a
different city from where I live but we got to talk and he was enjoying
a cookout and gathering at my sister's house.
I enjoyed the day with my family. It is truly special to be a
father and I'm grateful for my two children. Yes, even in
their teen years! My Father's day card was pretty funny - it
read, "Know why Father's Day is in June?" "Because about a
month after Mother's Day somebody said, 'Hey, wait a minute!' "
One thing I've learned for sure. You truly appreciate
fatherhood when you have your own children. I'm grateful to
be a son and a dad.
Today is bittersweet It is the one year anniversary of my
Mother's death. She lived a good life and she was a great wife to my
Dad for 55 years (their anniversary was June 14). And she put up with
my wildness in my youth and was something of a spiritual advisor to me
in recent years.
I miss her, but I am so grateful for her. She faced and
accepted her death with peace and her faith was strong. She
was quite an inspiration to our family and we were all with her when
she passed. It brought my dad, my sister and my brother all
closer together. Last
I wrote Opening
Death's Door about my mom.
Father's Day is coming up. It is this Sunday, June 17.
Men can often be procrastinators and not good at expressing
emotions. So, Father's Day often takes on a different complexion than
Mother's Day. Moms are caring, nurturing and thoughtful.
Dads - well, we're guys and that doesn't mean we don't care,
nurture or think. But we often show it differently.
Getting your father to talk about his life might be challenging.
But what a great conversation it can be. Depending
on your father's disposition and personality he may be very talkative
and open or he might be reluctant to discuss his life.
Regardless, it is worth the effort to know the stories of our
fathers. Maybe you can initiate that conversation with your
Dad this year. And those of you who are fathers, maybe think about your
life and try to get some of it down on paper, tape or video.
Share some of your life
lessons, values and experiences.
Father's Day is certainly a time for dads to reflect about their
children. One of my favorite pieces I've ever written is The Walk,
a little story about my son. It's true to life and it really just
flowed out of me. It wasn't contrived and it was real and maybe that's
why it's struck such a chord with many people. You can read
There are a number of people who are developing various services and
resources to help people preserve their stories and family history.
Many of them are small business operators. It is not easy to
survive in any business when you start out. This is true for
many personal historians.
Nevertheless, the market continues to grow for life story preservation.
I have discovered that many working in this field believe it
to be their true calling in life. For some it is an avocation - a
pursuit in addition to their regular work. My experience is
that there is a high degree of passion for the work from fulltime
personal historians to those who pursue it on a part-time basis or as a
hobby. I think this is due in part to seeing the great
satisfaction and joy you bring to others with a well done book, video
or other form of life story.
Because it involves a great deal of time and work to do a life story
the costs can be greater than many people realize. It's not
that the "life story" product is an exotic item. Rather the
amount of work is extensive. If the price tag of a full life
story is beyond your means then you are faced with other options, like
a smaller project, utilizing a web-based type of service (such as the iMemoryBook), or doing it
One of the personal historians, writers and business consultants who
truly understands the importance of developing a solid line of quality
services and consistently "tells it like it is" when
creating a viable business model is Denis Ledoux of the Soleil Lifestory Network,
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Today was one of those
days. You have them, too, I'm sure. At my "day" job in radio
(I work as a promotions director) the work was coming in at a
faster rate than I could multi-task and handle. I had to settle with
doing the best I could, prioritizing projects, and at the end of the
day recognizing that I did what I could and tomorrow is another day.
When I got home I realized that I still have responsibilities to deal
with, including the work I have as a personal historian. And
I needed to take time for my family, to reflect, and to be grateful.
I could not have done this without writing in my journal and
looking for what I can be grateful about.
Why am I sharing this with you? Because we all have days
where despite all our efforts we can't seem to get it all done.
It is important to recognize that we cannot control
everything. If we don't step back, pause and ask for some spiritual
guidance we miss the point of living. Yes, work is important
and when we have responsibilities we should do our best to fulfill
them. But we also live for more than work. This is
something I have to be reminded of (do you?) and I even wrote an
article previously about the importance of finding balance in life. You
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