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April, 2021

Describing Friends

April 27, 2021

How would you describe a best friend? This was a question and a quick write assignment for my students today.

Actually, I asked them to write about a best friend and describe them without saying who they are. As usual, I modeled this. And I found myself reflecting on good friends. What is it about them that comes to mind?

Best friends are true friends. They will stick with you through thick and thin.

Best friends will also call you on your stuff. We all need that, even when it hurts a bit. True friends won't give up on you, support you and will be there when you need them. But best friends are also people who can be honest enough with us to let us know if we are doing wrong. The best of those best can do that with some tact. I know from exprerience that you can get easily upset at your good friends, but the best will have good intentions and even be considerate. You might not like what they say at the time, but maybe it sinks in later and you discover the truth.

That can make the bonds of your friendship grow stronger.

Another quality of a best friend is how you can hang out and be together without a lot of talking. Sometimes just being there is what we need from a friend. Or for a friend.

When you are writing about your life and those experiences that matter keep in mind those good friends. Whether you name them or not, acknowledging their importance in your life and describing their qualities and place in your story is part of being a friend.

Big Exhale

April 21, 2021

A big exhale. That's how I've heard it described and that's how I personally feel. America has been holding our collective breath in anticipation of the jury's verdict in the Derek Chauvin case. When it was announced yesterday that the former Minnesota police officer was found guilty on all three counts you could almost actually hear people exhale.

"I can't breathe" were some of George Floyd's final words on May 25, 2020. A police officer had Floyd handcuffed on the ground and was kneeling on his neck for an agonizing nine minutes and 29 seconds. It was captured on video by one of the bystanders and it went viral. It sparked protests far and wide.

Police officers have been on trial before in cases involving too much force, often leading to death, and all too frequently African-Americans the victims. And unfortunately the track record of convictions for police officers in such cases has been extremely rare.

There is no doubt that the job of police person is difficult. But there is also a great responsibility that comes with the position. The big question now is what needed reforms will take place.

We are witnessing history and we are part of history. I think most people want a peaceful and safe society and that does require some law and order. We also need safety and protection for all people. I have thought several times since the verdict was announced about the great quote from Martin Luther King Jr., "The arc of the moral universe is long but it bends towards justice."

Ike the Intersection Dog

April 12, 2021

I am sure you have seen people on street corners holding signs and asking for help and handouts. But you probably haven't seen dogs panhandling before. But in Ironton, Missouri, along Highway 21 at a three-way intersection it is a common sight.

Ike, the panhandling hound, has been sitting in the middle of the intersection every day. He's not homeless and he's also not in any great need for a meal. But he will take one! He sits calmly in the middle of traffic and there is a sign nearby asking drivers to watch for him and to understand he's loved, but just likes sitting there and getting handouts.

The town has discovered it's pointless to try to stop Ike from his panhandling and also found a way to generate some income from his growing fame. They printed t-shirts with Ike's likeness and the revenue from the sales goes to Backpack Impact, a local organization providing meals for kids on the weekend who might not  eat otherwise. It's a well-known fact that lots of kids rely on school meals for some of their regular eating. Weekends could be a hunger stretch without others helping out, so what a great way to channel Ike's fame to a good cause.

Meanwhile, if you are ever in the area keep an eye out for Ike because he likes to lay right in the middle of the intersection, ready for food offerings from passerbys. Just don't give him hot dogs. Apparently he won't eat them.
| see news story from KMOV TV for more |

Your Memorable Story

April 7, 2021

Whether you know it or not, somewhere inside of you is a story, your memorable story, which needs to come out and announce itself. In some form or fashion that story should be preserved.

I know - you've heard this before. Perhaps you have even taken some steps to preserve this story. However, I understand how good ideas and plans often get laid aside. We all have busy lives and sometimes it is hard to keep the progress going. Even when it is something as valuable as your memoir or life story that people need to hear or read.

What to do? Find help. Although I work at this, promoting the idea that Your Life Is Your Story and finding ways to help others, I, too, am a busy guy. I work with some clients, but I also am teaching school.

Nevertheless, the need to write that memoir, at least a first draft, is real. I suggest you might turn to someone I've worked with in the past. I've used some of the programs offered by The Memoir Network. I have also promoted them.

Check out what Denis Ledoux and his team have with the Memorable Story / Write Your First Memoir Draft program. If you visit the site and read what is offered I think you might be blown away with all that is offered. I great value and more importantly a way for you to get that life story written!