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Don't Fear the Reaper
December 29, 2016
On Tuesday I was at a local coffee shop writing the December issue of my free newsletter. I titled it the Don't Fear the Reaper Edition,
primarily because this past year has had such a large amount of notable
deaths. Yes, of course, the Blue Oyster Cult song influenced the title.
"All our times have come / Here but now they're gone."
Many of this year's deaths have been celebrity passings, some of them
personally important to me as I grew up on their music or art or lived
during their time of political and historical importance.
On the day of my newsletter composing we heard about the passing of
actress/writer Carrie Fisher. I was in college when the first Star Wars film appeared in theaters and my friends and I dragged everyone we knew to see Episode IV: A New Hope. I even took my dad. I think I saw the film seven times that summer. So, yeah, you could say Princess Leia had an impact on me.
Yesterday came the news that Debbie Reynolds,
noted actress and mother of Carrie Fisher, had died, just one day after
her daughter. That added to what has already been a long list of
celebrity deaths in 2016.
Death is inevitable. It sometimes comes quickly and without warning.
Plenty of that in this year with the too many terrorist acts and
natural disasters. Other times we get a chance to prepare, to gather
with our loved one and find closure. That can be quite a gift to the
living and the dying.
Personal Historians share the hope of capturing and preserving our life
stories so that there can be wisdom, values and life lessons passed on
to the future generations. Don't fear death as much as the fear of
waiting too long to tell your story.
Christmas Eve and Hanukkah - Together Again
December 24, 2016
This year Christmas Eve and Hanukkah, two significant holiday celebrations that often overlap, are in a rare concurrence. It has only happened three times since 1900 and the last time was in 1978 - Hanukkah is starting on Christmas Eve.
Both of these holidays have important religious and cultural
implications. And for some families with mixed Jewish/Christian
marriages, it can be complicated. A Baltimore couple, the Hubers, are
such a combination and they will celebrate both holidays (see With Christmas Eve falling on the first day of Hanukkah, families negotiate cultural divides).
I see this as a great opportunity for people to learn more about their
holiday traditions. The diversity of the human race provides us a
chance to learn and grow as we discover how some of the things that
make us the same (celebrating with families, observing religious
events) can happen in varied ways.
Lighting the Menorrah or your Christmas tree, giving presents, singing
songs and working for peace and understanding - these are all good
things worthy of celebration. Happy Merry Hanukkah Christmas!
Papercrafting and Preserving All Things Paper
December 22, 2016
It is one thing to use paper; quite another to understand just exactly
what paper is and how to preserve the things we put down on paper, be
they memoirs and personal histories, legacy letters, thank you notes,
essays, photographs, or other artistic expressions such as drawings,
paintings and scrapbooking.
Recently I received an email from Roseanna Wheeler. She contacted me on behalf of scrapbook.com,
the self proclaimed "most visited papercrafting website and store in
the world, happily welcoming millions of crafters every month." It is
quite an extensive site on scrapbooking and more and their story is interesting, how they started from humble beginnings.
At any rate, Roseanna's purpose in contacting me was not to promote
scrapbooking per se, but rather to alert me to the extensive research
they have done about paper, document and photo preservation. She
figured the terrific amount of information they have put together would
be of interest to many of my site's visitors. After taking a look at
this information (Protect Photos, Documents and Other Papers From Natural Destruction Over Time)
I have to agree that they have assembled a great deal of important and
fascinating information that you may find of value in preserving your
important papers and documents.
There is plenty shared on how paper is made, including its history from
the earliest creators, to various types of paper (such as acid-free and
coated). How paper deterioates over time is also explored.
What can you do with this information? They have suggestions there,
too, but I think it is fairly obvious that if you have important
photographs, papers, books and other documents that you want to
preserve then this information is valuable. So take a look and remember
that the things worth preserving are often that which comes from the
heart, such as a loving letter, a memoir or a treasured photograph from
a family gathering.
Personal History Is Your Story
December 18, 2016
The end of the year is rapidly approaching. Most of us are busy with
holiday plans and I am no exception. Sorry that I haven't posted in a
while, but as a school teacher the end of the semester is an avalanche
of grading, reports, plans and activities.
Still, it is important to pause at this time of year and reflect.
The point of this post is to remind you that your story matters. I say
this not because I am knowledgeable about your life. It is because I am
confident that every life is important and we all need to be living out
our hopes and dreams. Sometimes that is difficult; often it is joyful.
Personal history is your story and your life is your story. Part of the
journey, I believe, is to pass on your experience, strength and hope.
Some of the ways to do that is through a memoir, audio or video
testimony, legacy letters and ethical wills, autobiographies and
biographies, family histories, scrapbooks, and photo books. These are
suggestions and there are other ways to do it. The important thing is
to document something.
We all grow in our understanding of the human experience by sharing
about our journeys. Don't take this lightly - we are evolving as a
species and we need to know about each other so that we recognize that
despite our diversity we are all connected. Humanity relies on
The APH (Association of Personal Historians) is an organization of people dedicated to the work of preserving stories. The motto is The Life Story People. Working with professionals can make all the difference in saving your story and having a legacy to share with others. The APH website has just been updated and I am impressed with the improvements. One of the sections I recommend you check out is What Is Personal History? It will help you better understand what is involved in preserving your own special story.
Blogging About Life
December 5, 2016
I created the Your Life Is Your Story
website in 2003 and right away I included a blog as part of the site.
The purpose of a blog was to bring attention to qualify family history
and life story news, views, methods, products, links, services and
"whatever else catches my fancy".
That allows me a pretty broad range of topics.
I give a fair amount of consideration to my blog entries. I find that
the opportunity to write about life story ideas and to comment on
significant events, people, legacies and the value of passing along
life lessons really helps me live a fuller life. It reminds me to pull
back from the daily events and items and frame things in a bigger
picture. I so need to do that, else I get lost in woods and fail to see
the forest for the trees.
Because I've been doing this for more than a decade I've found that I
am both obligated and motivated to continue to do this writing. I know
a lot of people have a blog to promote their business or to develop
credibility and attain something of a following as an expert in their
area. I get that and I admit that these things are important to me and
However, as I look back over the large archive of blog posts (I currently have links online back to May of 2006) I discover that much of my
story is now available. It is not organized as I would a book or a
memoir, but it is a record of things I've felt important enough to
write about. Some of it is of a personal nature, but quite a bit is
connected to events happening in the world.
Reading these past entries helps me see where I've been and how far I
have come, both as a writer and as a person trying to grow and develop
intellectually, emotionally and spiritually. It really is fascinating,
if you don't mind me saying it.
At the end of each month I post an archive page
for the entries over that month. There is some personal history
contained on these pages and also a wider community and even global
history. I appreciate everyone who visits this site and takes the time
to read. I hope it motivates you to do some writing of your own, or to
at least consider preserving your story.