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New Newsletter Takes You Down Memory Lane of Halloween
October 31, 2016
is the night celebrated by many for dressing up as someone you are not,
going to parties or "trick or treating", and there is a lot of history
to it all.
Halloween today, however, is not how I remember it. If you are a
subscriber to my free monthly newsletter then you
have an email waiting for you that Takes You Down Memory Lane of
When I was a kid, some fifty years ago, Halloween was a little
different that it is today. Sure, today kids still dress up in costumes
and get candy, but "back in the day" there were some differences,
starting with clowns not being so creepy.
Find out what is in store each month by signing up for the free
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Historians Are Kickin' It Up in Forth Worth
October 25, 2016
Yahoo in Forth Worth, Texas! The
APH (Association of Personal
Historians) are gathering this week for their annual
conference. It is
a great way to meet others who are working in the field of life story
preservation. People from various walks of life and with many gifts and
skills to share. Video, audio, interviewing, writing, marketing, book
production, running a personal history business, finding clients and
spreading the good news about saving our stories.
The theme of the conference is Kick
It Up and you know it's TEXAS SIZE good stuff. You can
follow along on social media with the hashtag, #APH2016.
A great blog post by DeborahWilbrink about the value of attending the
conferences is online - APH Conference 2016: Kicking Up the Value.
City Going for First Place in Baseball
October 23, 2016
It's been a long time since the Chicago Cubs were in the World Series.
The last time the Cubbies won the National League pennant and played in
the Fall Classic was 1945. But it has been even longer since they won
it all and were the champions of the world. That was back in their
glory days - 1908. It is the longest drought of any baseball team and
this team is anxious to change that. Chicago is known as the Second
City (behind New York), but they are going for First Place in the world
Their opponent will be no slouch. The Cleveland Indians stormed through
the American League playoffs, sweeping my beloved Boston Red Sox in
three games before dispatching the Toronto Blue Jays in four games.
They have one of the greatest bullpens so when it gets late in the game
their pitching is really tough.
Both teams have a great story with gifted players and managers and
rabid fans. Cleveland already went a bit crazy back in June when their
NBA team, the Cavaliers, brought a long awaited basketball
championship to the city. Their baseball team hasn't won it all since
So on baseball's greatest stage, the World Series, we have an October
drenched in drama. Two teams who've waited too long to be champs. Game
one is Tuesday night. It will be fun for me, a baseball fan who bleeds
Red Sox red (and there are lots of storylines with Boston connections
this year, such as former Boston manager Terry Francona leading the
Cleveland team and ace pitcher Jon Lester, a one time Boston great who
now leads the Chicago pitching staff), and it will be history in the
making. Be it baseball or someo other important event in your
life, history is the stories we tell about the things that happen in
The City Different with Some Different Kind of Talking
October 19, 2016
This past Saturday I presented a talk about the importance of sharing
family stories and preserving family history. I did it in Santa Fe, New
Mexico at a beautiful retirement and assisted living community known as
This event was part of National Family History Month and the intent was
to get more people talking. The talking we are encouraging is probably
different from most everyday conversation, although it certainly could
(and should) be part of our regular talking that we do with friends,
families and loved ones.
What we talked about was sharing family stories. Using conversation
cards created by the Funeral
and Memorial Information Council (FAMiC),
many of the attendees shared stories about their lives and family. Some
were funny, some somber and others heartwarming. It was really great to
hear people share.
We call these conversations The
Talk of a Lifetime. Find out more here.
Most Memorable Year
October 11, 2016
Last night on Dancing
with the Stars the DWTS cast
talked about their "most memorable year". It was intriguing,
enlightening and, frankly, a little painful for some of the
celebrities. James Hinchcliffe, professional race car driver, spoke
about the accident that almost took his life. Terra Jole talked about
her father's death and her regret that she couldn't be with him when he
passed. Jana Kramer let everyone know that she it was hard to persevere
during the dark days of her abuse. But each of them ultimately have a
story of triumph.
People can easily get overwhelmed at the prospect of telling their life
story. It seems like such a daunting task to recall the events of a
life. It is a lot of work. A way to make preserving your life story
more manageable is to tackle it in sections. Consider the turning
points in your life.
Writing about your most memorable year can be a terrific hook for an
audience learning about who you are and what your life has been about.
Your most memorable year, like your favorite alltime vacation, most
influential person, greatest triumph or life changing event are topics,
or even themes that can be the main focus of a memoir or life story.
Here's an exercise I recommend as you prepare to write your story (or
have it written). Get to the
heart of who you are - the heart of your story is based on
the real you. Often that is person other people don't really know.
Sharing your true self is a gift worth giving.
is Family History Month - Talk of a Lifetime, Part Four
October 4, 2016
We need to talk. All of us. Family members, friends and communities. We
need to have a talk to share our values, lessons and what is really
History Month is
every October. That is a perfect time to get together with a loved one,
preferably one with a fair amount of life experience, such as a
grandparent or elder, and Have the Talk of a Lifetime.
One of the wonderful ways to do this is by having a meaningful talk.
Connecting generations through family history includes sharing stories
about your ancestors, understanding where your families have lived over
time and the various stories about their lives, values and experiences.
of the Ultimate Gentleman Sportscaster, Vin Scully
October 3, 2016
We are into the month of October, the time when drama runs high in
major league baseball. The playoffs will soon be underway. After
grinding through six months and 162 games the top teams meet to
determine utimately the top prize, a World Series Championship.
The Dodgers are one of the teams that will be in the hunt for that
championship, but there will be a key part of the organization missing
from the games.
The epitome of a baseball broadcasting career is the one that just
ended. Yesterday Dodgers play-by-play man Vin Scully called his final
game. He did this job for 67 consecutive seasons, all for the Dodgers,
both in Brooklyn and Los Angeles. In a serendipitous way his final game
yesterday featured the Dodger Blue against their archrivals, the San
Francisco Giants. You see, when Vin was just a lad of 8 he became a
Giants fan. He lived in New York and this was 1936 and on October 2 of
that year (that's right, 80 years ago to the day!). He had seen a World
Series score from that day when the Giants were beaten down by the
Yankees, 18-4. "I felt so sad for the Giants, so I became, that
instant, a rabid Giants fan", stated Scully.
There have been a few truly great baseball broadcasters. Red Barber,
Mel Allen and Ernie Harwell come to mind. But no one has done it as
long as Vin Scully. 67 years! Most people start thinking about
retirement after twenty or thirty years. Vin is now 88 and the time has
come for him to retire. He finished up with class, just like
entire career. His way of calling a game was truly an artist at work.
He would weave stories and make great comments and his voice and patter
were perfectly suited for the pace of America's pasttime. Read up on
him in this wonderful New
York Times piece,
or do an Internet search for any number of tributes. He was, simply
put, one of the best ever. On top of that, he was a true gentleman, a
great family man and just a terrific person!
Vin Scully signed off
his final broadcast in typical fashion, "Don't be sad because it's
over, smile because it happened. And for the last time, I wish you all
a very pleasant good afternoon." Just typing that I can hear the
cadence and sincerity. Thank you, Vin Scully. You made the game better
by doing your part for a long time and you will be missed.
Memoirist Makes Front Page News
September 5, 2016
It is poetic justice that on this Labor Day I am able to post good news
regarding the type of work
I and others have been cultivating for the
past two decades.
Last year the Association
of Personal Historians turned 20.
I've been a member of this organization since 2003 and have both
watched it grow and benefited from the skills and knowledge shared
among this fine group of varied professionals who work to preserve
life stories. This past week a founder of APH and a few other
members were featured on the front page of the New York Times, Have
a Story to Tell? Your Personal Memoirist is Here.
Making the front page of the New York Times is quite a feather in the
cap for Kitty Axelson Berry of Modern
Memoirs and one of the founding members of APH.
She's been at this personal history for a long time and she and her
staff create beautiful memoirs and family history books. They are of
the highest quality and not inexpensive.
One of the most challenging things for any Personal Historian trying to
make a living in the field is getting clients to understand why the
financial investment is usually much more than than expected. People
have to be educated on both the value and the time it takes to create a
quality final product. The Times piece delves into this in a good way.
I hope that you have considered the preservation of your life story.
Your story is part of the history of the human race. You have had
experiences and a life unique to you. There is much to share with
others, especially your family.
In my article, Writing
My Life Story, I give tips on the writing of an
autobiography and memoir including how to start, point of view and