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Whenever You Feel Like It
November 30, 2015
Today I was going to do some writing on a memoir I've started, but when
I got home after a long Monday teaching school I just didn't feel like
it. I was too tired.
Guess how much writing got done? Right, not a word. If instead, I had
held true to a writing schedule the answer might have been that I wrote
500 words. Not much, maybe 15 minutes worth of writing. But it would it
have been something.
There are times when we choose not to write because we are exhausted or
too busy. And forcing writing at those times might not result in
anything good. Or, you might be surprised that 10 or 15 minutes of
writing time still yields a gem or two. You never know...unless you
actually do the writing.
All through the month of November Denis Ledoux of The Memoir Network
has been providing, for free, really good memoir writing tips and techniques.
The final one he posted today is the need for a timeline for writing
your memoir. He makes the point that if you leave it open-ended there
is a good chance you will never get your memoir written. A timeline
creates a goal and encourages you to write regularly. This goes
hand-in-hand with creating a writing schedule. Some people do best
early in the morning, others late at night. Whatever writing time you
choose, the important thing is to stick with it.
Even when you don't feel like it. Especially when you do feel like it!
Thanks for Catching Stories
November 26, 2015
It is another Thanksgiving
Day. Over the years (since 2003) I've had a chance to
reflect on the wide arc of gratitude. I am a firm believer in having an
gratitude. Because I am human I often lose sight of that
attitude. But this holiday always brings me back to it.
On Thanksgiving as you gather with your family you might consider how
to preserve some of your family history and stories. Don't present it
as too big of a deal because you might overwhelm family members. It is
a big deal
to preserve our stories, but it takes a certain amount of diplomacy to
broach the subject.
Patricia Charpentier, a personal historian, writes some good ways to do
this and provides some excellent story starters in her blog post, Turkey
Talk. I like her approach of focusing on past pets, food, and
friends from school.
The Great Thanksgiving Listen is
is encouraging families to get some stories preserved. This year they
are recommending it as a school project for high school students and
they have developed a mobile ap to use for the recording. There are
some good features with it, but also a few concerns. It is well
explored by Andrew Shaffer in his post for OUPblog.
An alternate ap with more flexibility created by NaorthBeachApps LLC
called the StoryCatcher
Pro might be the way to go. APH
member April Bell is involved with the ap and it looks to be
a good way to go.
I looked back over some of my past posts for Thanksgiving and it
brought back many memories. I think my post from last year still holds
weight, High Five for Gratitude.
Memoir in the Context of the Big Picture
November 18, 2015
My previous post about how our lives and the circles we move in are not
isolated from the bigger picture of world events has coincided with
another excellent suggestion by The
Memoir Network for their November
is Memoir Writing Month tips.
Because of social media, the Internet and instant news and
communication we know more about what is happening around the world
than ever before. When we write stories from our own life experiences
it is important to see how they are part of a bigger picture and that's
the gist of Denis Ledoux's post
about knowing the history of where you live and how it plays a part in
your memoir. It is important to recognize and include in your writing
how global events impact you. The terrorist attacks in Paris, the
events of a big natural disaster, or even a significant sporting event
can add good color and background information to what is going on in
your life and personal experiences.
Many people are standing in solidarity with the people of Paris,
France. That's a story that I've included in my own journal writing. At
the same time, this past weekend had the biggest
Ultimate Fighters (UFC)
upset in history and the winner, Holly Holm,
is an Albuquerque native. As a result people here where I reside have
been buzzing and understandably proud of her accomplishments. It has
put a spotlight on New Mexico and its been a big topic of conversation
with many people I know. Yes, I've also written about that in my
journal and someday it might get included as part of a memoir about
this period of my life.
I wrote about this topic with the article, Your Memoir and
the Larger World. That and other articles
I've written are available to read and help you with your own life
stories. I also recommend you sign up for the free resources and
November Memoir tips from The Memoir Network.
World is Bigger Than Your Country
November 16, 2015
The terrorist attacks on Paris, France this past weekend has again made
us aware how precarious our lives can be. We must not cower in fear and
we should live each day to the fullest. We never know what can happen.
Your world, my world, our world is bigger than the country we live in.
We really recognize this when we travel and experience different
cultures. In spite of the diversity there are the common themes that
unite us, that of family, friends, love, freedom and (hopefully)
concern for our fellow humans. People who attack others out of hate or
misguided ideology cast a pall on us. The attrack was on French soil.
Victims were from 19 different nationalities. Oh, how I wish there was
peace and love throughout our world. Sadly it is not the case.
That doesn't mean we stop caring or trying. Share your stories. Help
each other. Teach the children and young people that life is precious
and so are the values and experiences of our lives. Let them know that
people everywhere are connected - the family of humanity. We don't need
more walls, we need to unite and stand against the terror.
We can change the world, but it has to begin with us as individuals and
then in our interactions with others. Don't despair. Have hope.
Celebrate the good. Thank those who are making a difference, especially
the real heroes around us who make a difference when tragedy strikes.
Journals Helps Your Memoir Writing
November 10, 2015
I've kept journals for years. I used to write by hand, but for several
years now I've typed my entries into computer documents. Handwritten
entries are good, but this works better for me. Currently I use a
that I really like because it saves my entries and allows me to import
pictures, links, other documents and it is a great organizer. I can
pull up past entries easily and I find that reviewing my writing really
helps me process my life experiences.
Even more, my past entries are incredibly helpful for my memoir
writing. I often need to go back in time and see what I was journaling.
My entries typically are a stream of conscious record of my feelings
and how I am dealing with my life experiences. What I wrote about on
those days is more accurate than my sometimes selective memory. The
same is true about you. Memories fade or become altered by our egos.
It's just the way our brains work.
My ideas about how using journal writing helps my life story writing is
affirmed and reinforced by another recent Denis Ledoux posting
for The Memoir
Network and NIMWM,
is Memoir Writing Month.
Denis Ledoux added a twist I had not considered. If you don't have
journal writing from a time in your life that is part of your memoir
you can use a visualization exercise and create
an imagined journal entry. Doing this will help you recall memories and
even details that will improve that part of your memoir because it will
be more vivid. It's a really good tip and you can read the post here.
I have also written about the importance of journal writing.
of Hope Struggle to Survive for Refugee Children
November 7, 2015
There is nothing more precious than the smile of a young child, one who
is totally preoccupied with the present and overjoyed at the simple
pleasures life can bring.
Unfortunately, all too often our world has been a cauldron of heated
war and violence and the innocence of children is ripped away. In our
current global crisis of war and persecution nearly 30 million children
have been driven from their homes. They've been forced to confront a
horrible reality that robs them of their youth. Even so, there is still
the spirit that yearns to be free and to enjoy the beauty that children
often discover through their embracing of life, love and family.
A poignant New
York Times Magazine
multimedia documentary of displaced children shows us through
stories of three refugee children (Hana from Syria, Oleg from the
Ukraine and the South Sudanese boy, Chuol) what life is like in the
struggle to survive when families are forced to flee their homes and
seek safety elsewhere. Displaced
presents powerful and heartwrenching stories, but they are important to
know. The future of our world is dependent on finding ways to live
together and the incredible responsibility we have to protect the young.
is Memoir Writing Month
November 4, 2015
Call it a gimmick or call it an incentive. Either way, making November
"Memoir Writing Month" has the goal of getting you to do some
significant writing on your memoir.
A memoir is not the same as an autobiography. It is a part
of your life. It helps to pick a theme and writing around that. How
many stories can you come up with about your favorite hobby, life
travels, education or spiritual journey? Each of those themes may be
ripe for a memoir.
My friends at The
have dedicated a number of resources to help you do memoir writing in
November. I am just a one-man operation and I do believe I have lots of
helpful ideas, but I can only do so much. On the other hand, The Memoir Network
has a wide ranger of services and help for your memoir writing. I get
the emails and newsletters and already I've seen some excellent tips
from Denis Ledoux, including the above mentioned theme
approach for your memoir. There is also encouragement to set a writing
schedule and ways to bring your memoir to life using dialog. Many great
tips and resources to investigate and you can start right here.